If it’s a broken part replace it
If it’s a broken arm then brace it
If it’s a broken heart then face it
– Jason Mraz, Details in the Fabric –
Sometimes we think we don’t have a choice in certain matters. Our cell phones start freezing up every now and then, but we think that means we have to get new ones because repairing seems impossible or just never occured to us. We want the black Manolo Blahnik Mary-Janes but they’re not in our size so we give up the search, not thinking to look at Jimmy Choo or Christian Louboutin. We want something so badly that at the slightest hint that we might not get it we think that means we should just give up on it immediately, our judgment so clouded by disappointment that we fail to look at other ways around the situation that might get us what we want.
But sometimes we do have a choice. It may not give us what we want, ever or anytime soon, but it strengthens our resolve and renews our resilience, and even if it doesn’t apply to any current situation, it prepares us for the next time around. It’s whether we’re willing to go through the harsh lesson of being disappointed and humiliated time and time again or ready to throw in the towel in the face of too many obstacles and a seemingly dead end that makes all the difference in the world.
I used to think that I had no choice but to see this through, to just hold on until the very last second, because one day, by some great miracle, something would change and the tide would turn in my favor. But now I know that I do have a choice, after all. I can either stick it out and see it through until the very end, or I can cut my losses and grit my teeth through the pain, and hope that with every morning I wake up alone once more, the pain will lessen.
You’ve given me no choice.